Actually what I offered was to pay him to document his adventures at Adult Friend Finder and write down exactly what his experiences are as a member. So in the coming weeks I will be updating this page with his written account of how it all goes down. However, I did not just send him the link to join without any advice - Hell no, that would not do! You see most men who join a dating site, regardless of which one, do not go about it correctly and they end up alone and frustrated. Adult Friend Finder is no different.
Here is the advice I gave Robin:
1. Join as a Gold member. Especially for men, being a Gold member is essential. I won't lie - there are more men than women at any dating site and AFF is no different. To stand out you have to pay the little bit extra to be listed above all the Silver and especially the free members.
2. The two absolutely essential "extras" you must have is the option to allow standard members to contact you and VIP status. Both of these will elevate a man to the top 5% of male members that are found by women seeking to get laid. Believe me, in the world of adult online dating, these advantages will get you laid very quickly. It does cost a little more money for these options but in my long experience at helping men get laid at Adult Friend Finder they are pretty much mandatory. I mean you can still get laid at AFF, but it won't be nearly as easy without the options I just mentioned.
Beyond that it is simply a matter of uploading at least one picture of yourself and give some very basic information for your profile. Contrary to popular belief it is NOT necessary to tell a whole lot about yourself. Keep it brief and don't try to come off as overly clever or vulgar. Just be sure to upload a picture of you smiling as that puts women at ease.
Next start browsing the site for hot women in your area. They have extensive search criteria for which you can adjust, but sometimes it is best to confine your search for all women seeking men within the age group and area you are after. Then just go down the list and click on "Flirt". No need to send messages at this point. I recommend the "kiss" flirt (you will see many options) and just go down the list of attractive women you would really want to have sex with. Chances are there will be many!
By the way do not do this until you have been a member for at least 24 hours and your profile and picture have been approved! Otherwise not only will you not be able to email but the women you contact, they will not be able to see you. That more than anything will cause women to ignore you so just be patient.
Just do this for about 5 minutes a day for the first few days and you will notice something exciting start to happen... Primarily many of the women you flirted with will return the flirt or even send you an email. After that is simply a matter of exchanging some emails, instant messages, or even a phone conversation. And remember, this is Adult Friend Finder, not some lame "let's get to know each other first" kind of wimpy dating site, so most of these women already understand that you are going to want to get laid tonight, not some time off in the future.
So that was the very same advice I gave Michael. He will be sending me his written account of how it actually goes down starting later this week and I will post it below on this page. All names or member usernames will be changed but all other details will not be edited, for good or bad. So check back regularly, but for God's sake do not wait another minute to find sex for yourself! Adult Friend Finder is the number one adult dating site in the world for a reason: it gets people laid...
